Two years ago, I desperately wanted to have my own kids, but it didn’t work out. The reason for wanting my own kids was I wanted my own family. Why did I want my own family? I felt alone, I felt like I didn’t have an anchor. It almost felt like falling, not knowing if there was anyone down there who would catch me. I left home when I was 15, I been on my own since. Every time when I had to fill out some documents about emergency contact, I always put down my cousin’s or my friend’s names. I always had to plan ahead where I would go for Christmas or Thanksgiving every year, or else I would spend the holidays alone. I wanted my own family, so I could always have a place to return to. My grandpa passed away when I was 14 years old, I could not be sadder than I was. I was sad that he left me, but more so, I lost my ultimate support. The person who made everything seemed ok in my life was gone forever. I have been lonely since. But is that a good reason to have kids?
I finally convinced myself that the answer is no. I cannot bring a kid into this world so that I can have a family so that I wouldn’t feel alone. That is purely selfish! Life isn’t easy like it’s all rainbows and happiness. There are so much bitterness, hard work, and heartbreaks. In the end, we all die. I realized that the best thing I can do for my kids is not having them at all. A bit extreme, isn’t it? Most people think this thought is so pessimistic, it probably is. But, it makes sense to me. Plus, there are so many orphans who didn’t choose to come to this world, they will suffer knowing that they were abanded. Why not taking care of those who are already here rather than reproduce more human. The world population we have right now is 7,800,000,000, the highest in history. And humans have been destroying this earth more and more each day, my kids don’t need to be part of this.
Now, let’s talk about the reason why people have kids.
Most people don’t think about it, they just do it like life is supposed to work this way. Once you get married, you have kids. The only question people would ask is, how many kids do you want? It’s almost as you are going to the store to get shirts, how many would you like to have? If you have enough money, you can get them. Some people get them shirts on credit cards even though they are not even going to wear them once they get it. Just like kids, they have them just because they can. Some people don’t even have the ability to take care of them once they arrive. I cannot stand those people! Kids are not items or products or a shirt or a car, they have souls. It is so disrespectful to have kids without really thinking about it.
Now, there are accidents. I wouldn’t be surprised that a lot of us are here due to accidents. It is a pretty big deal to be here for a lifetime! And, it might just all happened because of an accident. Guys, the moment you decided to deliver your sperms in a girl, you made your decision to be responsible. After that point, you have to take whatever the outcome is. Girls, it is our body like our temple, if you don’t mean to have kids, then protect yourselves. If the accident happens, all I can say is don’t bring the baby into this world when you are not prepared to be a parent. The baby will suffer way more if you don’t get that abortion.
For some people, having kids is part of their survival. They have kids so that the kids can take care of them when they get old. There is nothing wrong with taking care of elders, but if you give birth to kids just so that they can take care of you when you get old, that’s so wrong! Parents with this kind of thought will force their kids to live a way that will benefit the parents. They will force the girls to marry rich guys, they will force their kids to be rich rather than to be happy. They are so damn toxic that they think what they do is called love. Think about it right now, how would you feel if your parents brought you into this world so that you can take care of them when they get old? Then, you will have kids, so that they can take care of you when you get older. I don’t know how you feel about this, but it is pretty meaningless to me.
There are some people who have kids so that they can carry on the name for the family. These people won’t stop reproducing until they get a boy, since girls don’t carry on the name in most cultures nowadays. I never understood that because I am a female. I know that my grandparents were disappointed when they found out that I am a girl, but they really don’t how girls feel about that. It’s like: seriously? Why am I even here, sorry to disappoint you, but I didn’t choose to be here nor to be a girl. I also hated my mom that she told me that they were disappointed about me at a such young age as well! I didn’t like my grandparents because of that. Due to this carrying on the family name reason, there are way more baby girl orphans in china than baby boy orphans. We had the one-child policy in China for a long time, people literally would kill the baby if the baby isn’t a boy. All I can say is to hell with carrying on the family names.
Well, well, well, don’t get mad now. I am not hating the world today, nor am I depressed or anything like that. Just a thought. I know plenty of great parents who provide a loving life for their kids, and they really know how to love. Everyone lives by different principles, and we all have our reasons. I am not judging the way you live, because we all have that free will to make choices in life. I am not planning to bring my babies into the world. But, I still want a big family one day. I am going to adopt the orphans, those poor kids didn’t do anything wrong, and they deserve to be loved. I am planning on adopting different races, so my kids can love each other and others beyond what they see from outside. For those of you who are thinking of bringing your babies into this world, please take it seriously and read some books. Most people say “no! I didn’t know how to be a parent before I had my babies, they grew up fine.” But, are they really tho? There is no perfect parent, but if you don’t try, you are far from a qualified parent. Please remember, you brought your kids into this world without their permission, they don’t owe you anything. It is your responsibility to take care of them the best you can. They are not items, they have souls. Till next time.